They are so odd. though this applies to all relationships Im more referring to dating.
The little things that are expected for todays “normal” couple … well they’re rediculous.
Its not the fact that people want them, it’s the fact that they arent apreciated because they are expected. For example I know a girl who when grounded for a month had her boyfriend come over every day since she could not leave. After only a week she started geting annoyed that he wasn’t bringing his friends with him as often as she wanted. The simple fact that he was willing to come over and give up his few hours of daylight, when they had only been dating for two months, did not seem to be anything to her. I mentioned this to her and she thought I was completely obsurd.
I can list numerous other occasions where so much is expected a so little is appreciated … especially in relationships that have just started. It makes me sad because after a while they forget that the other has dreams, wishes, and goals … everything becomes about them.
This is what I have seen in the highschools and colleges that I have been around. Now I know not every couple in America is like this. I know people personally who have great relationships. The kind of relationship I want to have. One where the other is appreciated. Where there is understanding when plans get changed or ruined. A little bit of give and take …. in the right areas.
Morals should stand for each person. Work, in whatever form it may be, should be accomplished. And God should be the center.
I have more thoughts on this. I just cant concentrate.
Oh one more point. In a dating relationships i believe that both people should have other people that they are accountable too. Not just about stuff dealing with dating but everything. Both should be able to live a week without the other. They need close friends. Someones else to spend time with. To talk to. Figure things out with. And enjoy the day with.